In order of the asking, your three quick questions:
- From a quick search on alldatasheet.net, the F3NK80 may be a ST made MOSFET, an the J13009 is a Fairchild-made NPN transistor. The last one is along the lines of what you are looking for.
- Both could be, the J13009 (NPN transistor) a bit more so than the F3NK80 (MOSFET)
- The J13009 NPN transistor is in a B-C-E orientation, as you can see on this datasheet: https://www.fairchildsemi.com/datasheets/FJ/FJP13009.pdf
And to take a step back, I applaud your effort in putting hardware together to learn electronics. But, I think in this case you are going to need to do a bit more reading, because it will take more than a simple connection of that one transistor to make the amplifier you want. It is a bit like cooking - you have some of the ingredients, but you are going to understand a little more about how it works to BOTH select the other ingredients and use them in a way to give you your dish.
This is why some folks use parts like the LM386 - it is an IC that needs little more than a few parts (which they even tell you the values of on the specification sheet), some power, and connections for your input and output, and you will get a very nice amplifier that shouldn't give trouble. Like here: http://www.ti.com/lit/ds/symlink/lm386.pdf
What you are trying to do is build something a bit like the amplifier that is ALREADY built into the LM386 - which is a great little project - but you are either going to need an existing design like this: http://sci-toys.com/scitoys/scitoys/computers/solderless/amplifier.html or http://myplace.frontier.com/~bwalker1945/1QAFAmp.html
Or learn how to design an amplifier for a selected transistor from the datasheet after understanding how a transistor works. There are so many tutorials, here are a couple: http://www.sentex.ca/~mec1995/tutorial/xtor/xtor1/xtor1.html and http://www.techlib.com/electronics/audioamps.html and a common beginners' electronics book: http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Started-Electronics-Forrest-Mims/dp/0945053282
Any way you go, it'll be something you built yourself. Good luck!