Firstly, does it really need to measure resistance? As far as I can tell, it will be a case of a contact either being open circuit or short circuit - nothing inbetween?
The advantage of microcontrollers, Arduinos and so on is they can perform operations in very quick succession, such that they appear simultaneous to the human eye.
So make the Arduino test one part at a time, in quick succession. Thus it will appear as if it has tested all 3 simultaneously.
I cannot work out what your fencing body "cord" does exactly. If you give more information on how it works, perhaps someone can design the circuit for you.
Also, what you say about the mis-wiring problem is not clear: do you want the circuit to some how know if you have mis-wired it? I can't see that being possible.
Edit:
I think I know roughly what you want now. At the least, I can give you a circuit which you can adapt.
The principle will be as per Spehro Pefhany's comment: use 6 pins from the Arduino- three digital to drive and three analog to read. So this is how that would look: